With Love to My Single Girlfriends

There’s one thing that can get me seriously angry (well, actually I call it “righteous indignation.”)

I get downright indignant when I look around and see all the single women in my life whose hearts are repeatedly wounded by clueless men. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not mad at the men. In fact, I like men in general and have four pretty amazing members of the male gender under my roof right now. No, I’m angry at sin. My heart weeps over the foothold the enemy has been afforded here on earth in this area. The one who comes to steal, kill and destroy has been extremely effective in annihilating dreams of marriage and family for so many of my God-fearing female friends.

You see, I am happily married and the mom of four kinda fun kids (count it five with my son-in-love.) So I KNOW that what they long for is, indeed, fulfilling. It is good. It is dynamic. They crave what God truly ordained for delight here on earth.

So why are these talented, dynamic, adorable (and yes even physically beautiful) female friends of mine still single? I don’t know. I wish I did. But I also know this is not where our hopes and dreams will ever be fulfilled: I’ll never be a size 4 here on earth (and actually, I’m asking for a size 0 in Heaven)….I ache when children get cancer…I’m visibly annoyed when the good guys don’t win.

But maybe that’s just it. If life were super fulfilling here, we’d not yearn for Heaven. The very fact that my single friends awake to this ache every day confirms the hope of heaven; admittedly, they probably wait in expectation of that eternity more than I do.

I salute you, single women. I salute you.

And, by the way, if singleness includes parenting for you – check out my friend, Meg’s blog of her journey!


  1. Thank you for this! Having friends like you sure helps in this journey! "Bloom where you are planted" comes to my mind. :) Love you!

  2. Wow! Just went I needed encouragement on my singleness God show up..is in this little detail that I feel enormously bless and can hear God saying Trust Me with your life! God is Good. :)

    1. Oh, you are NOT forgotten -- He understands that ache, and is the only One who can fill it! Much love, my friend :)

  3. So you're saying that your single friends should just endure the suffering, because in heaven it won't matter if they're single? Aren't you just kind of rubbing it in with this post? You don't really make any sort of point about single women, you just say it makes you angry to see, you don't know why it happens, but you're happy at least, and you wish other single ladies would know your happiness someday. That's about the gist of it, right?

  4. Our earthly angsts and aches will never be removed this side of heaven. Certainly for some women, it's their singleness. For others, it'll be different kinds of hurts and losses. Only Christ fulfills, both on earth now, and perfectly in eternity!